Relationships have the potential to reveal our greatest strengths as well as our particular vulnerabilities. Because relationships are so important to most of us and touch such intimate places, couples can get entangled with each other in ways that are uncomfortable, frustrating and quite painful.



What's more is that these entanglements can go on for some time and seeing one's partner and the relationship clearly can be difficult in the midst of the entanglement. An outside support, witness, and guide is invaluable for seeing the bigger picture of what is creating the difficulty and understanding how to move forward towards a more fulfilling and fluid relationship.

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I encourage couples to seek out counseling even when there are minor misunderstandings and subtle distancing so the hurt that may be happening does not go on for longer than necessary. Although showing up authentically with one's partner may feel risky at times, such revealing is the best way to keep the intimacy alive in a relationship.